Opposites Attract, Soulmates, & Other Common Relationship Myths
When it comes to relationships, it often feels like falling in love is the easy part. Nurturing a healthy relationship, on the other hand, is significantly more difficult. It's even trickier when we hold onto beliefs about how we're supposed to feel in a relationship, or when we nurture assumptions about how we feel our partners should behave.
The problem with these assumptions is that they influence how we behave, whether we're satisfied, and so much more. That's why I'd like to spend some time debunking five of the most common relationship myths in today's blog post.
1. Happy couples never fight
I see a lot of couples falling for this myth, which isn't surprising in the least. We see photos of happy couples on our social media feeds every day and popular culture glorifies the notion of coupled bliss.
All couples have differences that they need to work through and fighting isn't necessarily a sign that your relationship is doomed to fail. It's more important to be respectful and diplomatic during arguments. Try to avoid judgment, remember not to interrupt, and approach your partner with empathy. If your communication skills could use some work, we'll touch on that in a moment.
2. Opposites always attract
People with opposite personalities can enjoy satisfying relationships full of love and respect. But, just because someone is your polar opposite, it doesn't automatically mean they're an ideal partner. This is especially true if your life goals and ideals are also at odds.
At the end of the day, couples in successful relationships complement each other.
3. Everyone has a soulmate, the one person they're meant to be with
There are 7.5 billion people in the world. Statistically, it doesn't make much sense that there would only be one single soulmate for all of us!
There are plenty of loving, empathetic people who might complement your strengths, weaknesses, and lifestyle. When you stop believing in the myth of “The One,” dating becomes a whole lot easier because your expectations are more balanced and realistic.
4. If you have to work at communication, the relationship isn't worth it
This is one myth I wish I could debunk for everyone who comes to Foundations Counseling seeking relationship help . Everyone has to work on their communication, even the happiest and most fulfilled couples.
If you'd like to learn how to approach communication with loved ones more mindfully, these resources will be help on your journey:
Communication Skills - Drop the Defense for Meaningful Conversations
How to Use “I” Messages in Communication
Improve Your Communication with Effective Listening
What Makes a Relationship Work?
5. If the relationship is meant to be, everything will work out
When it comes to relationships, I like using a ship metaphor.
Relationships, like ships, need to be steered. You could go with the flow, but there's a greater chance your ship will capsize. At the end of the day, both parties need to put in the work to make sure everything stays on course. That includes working on communication, respecting each other, and approaching conflicts with empathy and understanding.
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